Jim Wallace is making sweeping statements that have no basis in truth and simply donâ€™t apply to all gay men, for I am gay and I do not take drugs, Iâ€™m not overweight, I donâ€™t drink to excess, I donâ€™t sleep around at all and Iâ€™ve a pretty healthy diet. Iâ€™m a little eccentric at times, but Iâ€™m a creative person, weâ€™re all like that! And at the end of the day, I believe Iâ€™m just the right and healthy amount of crazy to make life enjoyable. Maybe Iâ€™m a black sheep in the pile, but I canâ€™t be the only one out there like this, can I?
The point that was made about suicide not changing in areas where gay marriage has been legalised is not really a worthy one; change doesnâ€™t happen overnight. It takes years for that kind of thing to permeate society and change the way people think and behave towards those who were previously marginalised, but at least theyâ€™re equal under the law now.
Maybe thatâ€™s where the motive for all this lies - fear that there will no longer be an excuse to marginalise. There will be no law to hide behind and then itâ€™s just obvious that it comes from fear and insecurity about difference and a failure to understand and accept others. That says a lot more about the person showing this behaviour than those they are trying to make feel bad or inferior.
Anyone can say smoking, drinking, promiscuity or anything else will shorten someoneâ€™s life and that gay people do such things, and for some that could be the case. However, the same can be said for many heterosexuals but this was overlooked, a blind eye was turned to that because it doesnâ€™t support the argument or point Jim Wallace wanted to make, that itâ€™s unhealthy to be gay.
I personally believe that no matter how long your heart beats for, hate is the one thing that shortens your life the most. Getting angry or hateful towards him isnâ€™t helpful when the man obviously has something driving him to say or do such things without the correct knowledge to back it up. It could be a bad experience, insecurity or denial but it is undoubtedly a belief or behaviour that has been learned. Iâ€™m not religious at all, but a famous quote of religious origin has never felt more appropriate lately: â€śforgive them, for they know not what they doâ€ť.
Jim Wallaceâ€™s words do appear damaging, but I think we should remember that theyâ€™re only damaging if theyâ€™re to be believed and believe him I do not, and nor should anyone else.
â€śNo one can make you feel inferior without your consentâ€ť ~ Eleanor Roosevelt