Every year GayNZ.com staffers look back on our year of reporting and reflecting on what's happened to New Zealand's glbti people and communities.
With the help of a small band of informed advisers we choose a handful of people who have made a difference to their glbti brothers' and sisters' lives. People who have stood out as being exceptional.
But before we announce them in our New Years Day Honours tomorrow we've picked out those who have been destructive, unpleasant, obstructive, vindictive or have otherwise fallen prey to the dark side of human nature. These, then, distilled from our comprehensive 2012 reporting, and minus the politicians who we covered yesterday, are our New Year's Dishonours:
of the Year.
Message to Colin: rights are not a gimmick to be used to feed your own self-agrandisement or narcissism.
The family of the late Julianne Kramer
disrespect of her gender identity.
The level of bigotry and bloody-mindedness transgender New Zealanders face has never been clearer than it was in the case of Julianne Kramer, who sadly died in a helicopter crash near Wanaka this year. From police our newsroom got mixed messages on her gender identity. When we asked why they explained that while she was transgender and had lived as a woman, her family wanted her referred to by her male name, and as a man. The mainstream media took the easy route and followed these wishes, and really shouldnâ€™t have.
know losing a family member is heart-breaking. However, taking a dump
on the very person Julianne really was was utterly unpardonable. Her
life was her own, not her family's. Makes us all wonder what she had
to put up with in family life while she was alive and through her
struggle to be the woman she was born to eventually be. What were they saying behind her back or even to her face?
Message to the Kramers: show some respect to your daughter, your sister!
Right to Life
losing the plot entirely
Message to Right to Life: Give it up.
The Carmen Rupe Memorial Trust
For disservice to Carmenâ€™s memory
The most disappointing story this year has been the bitchiness and bickering in the wake of Carmen Rupeâ€™s death. Carmen did like a bit of drama, but this has just been disgraceful. A Sydney dominatrix has led the charge and tried to bully anyone who dares ask hard questions, and utterly disrespected Carmenâ€™s friends on this side of the Tasman and a good few in Australia too.
This group has also tried to make Carmen out to have been another Rosa Parks when, really, she was just Carmen, a transsexual hooker with massive boobs and a gloriously brazen attitude who was a trailblazer not by riding around in figurative buses standing up for for glbti rights, but just by being Carmen.
And, despite their self-serving and insensitive post-mortem attempts to rebuild her as some sort of bejeweled and bewigged Mother Theresa, nobody could own Carmen in life and no one can in death either. Sheâ€™d likely have told them that herself.
Message to the CRMT: Take some time to get to know, and learn from, the real Carmen.
For intollerable smugness
Message to Joe: You're not even half 'the man' most of the gay boys in your audience were.
Justice and Corrections Departments
disservice to transgender prisoners
Message to Justice and Corrections: Get it sorted.
doing everything but putting families first
What, exactly, are Family First trying to protect marriage from? People who love each other and want to be a family?
to Family First: Build a bridge - get over it.
The Edge and the Broadcasting Standards Authority
disservice to intelligent broadcasting
The whole saga was unbelievably offensive from beginning to end.
Message to The Edge and the BSA (and Mike): Grow some (gay) balls.