We just stumbled across a gem of a blog from popular psychologist Nigel Latta, who offers some heartwarming words of common sense on the issue conservatives like to beat their drums so loudly about.
‚ÄúDespite claims to the contrary from some of the more conservative aspects of society, same-sex parents are nothing new. In fact, female Laysan albatrosses have been doing it for thousands of years. A percentage of them pair up with other similarly inclined lady albatrosses and raise happy, well-adjusted chicks. What‚Äôs more, the other more traditional albatross families don‚Äôt seem to care. No one gets upset, and no one starts a petition,‚ÄĚ Latta writes.
He says arguments against same-sex parent families are ‚Äúwrong and silly‚ÄĚ.
‚ÄúIf we put the prejudice issue aside, the difficulties that same-sex parents face are much the same as those that any blended family will face. It‚Äôs also likely that as more same-sex couples are able to enjoy the stabilising effect of marriage, which has previously been available only to heterosexual couples, some of the instability which has traditionally characterised same-sex relationships will also change.‚ÄĚ
‚ÄúThis would be a sensible question if there was only one way mums and dads can be, but of course there are infinite variations in how these roles are played out. There is no one accepted way for a mother to be, or a father to be. Some dads are stoic, and emotionally aloof, and some cry at the sad bits in movies. Some mothers are soft and girly, and some mothers take their daughters bow-hunting, where they kill, gut, and carry out wild boar.
‚ÄúThere is no singular definition of the ‚Äėmum‚Äô role or the ‚Äėdad‚Äô role; there are just mums and dads, who all do things in their own way. There‚Äôs no right way to do it, apart from two people who love each other, with two different personalities, doing the best they can to raise their kids to be good people. Same-sex couples . . . same thing.‚ÄĚ
Latta‚Äôs ‚Äėthings to remember‚Äô
¬∑ Your family
is just the same as everyone else‚Äôs.
¬∑ Your children don‚Äôt need a mum and a dad role model, they just need two good role-models.
¬∑ Everything else applies just as much to your family as it does to all the other types of families.